What kind of energy are emotions made of?

Written by admin on March 16, 2010 – 1:39 pm -

Definition of emotion is energy in motion (e-motion). What I’m mainly talking about here are emotions like fear and love where just a mere thought can bring about these type of emotions, nothing external involved. If energy is just chemicals produced in the brain then why can’t we just inject it into ourselves to feel that certain way? Can you hold an emotion?

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Metalosophy: Fear of Failure, Fear of Success

Written by admin on March 15, 2010 – 5:19 pm -

Fear paralyzes people from moving towards their goals. The two primary fears that war against personal achievement are the fear of failure and the fear of success. Learn how to crush both of them and get on the fast track to metal success!

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Know Fear!

Written by admin on March 14, 2010 – 12:12 pm -

 

We live in a society defined by its insecurities. We fear the loss of our jobs, our health, our money, our relationships, our sense of control. Here is a sampling of some less common fears to illustrate how far human fears reach:

- Dendrophobia – fear of trees
- Chronomentrophobia – fear of clocks
- Pentheraphobia – fear of a mother-in-law
- Consultophobia – fear of management consultants (I made that one up!)
- Xanthrophobia – fear of the color yellow
- Blennophobia – fear of slime

You get the point. Fear is deeply imbedded in many aspects of our day-to-day lives. Check out the evening news. Many of the stories are posed to get our attention by playing on our fears. A headline that reads, “Are you poisoning your family at the dinner table?” is guaranteed to get attention. So is the one asking, “Are your children safe at school?” In fact, when I was a youngster, I remember my mother saying, “We can watch the six o’clock news and not eat or watch the 11 o’clock news and not sleep!”

Since we fear most that which is unknown to us, defining moments of change can occur when we choose to know our fears.

Fear keeps us in the background, convincing us we can never accomplish our dreams. It is the voice of fear that tells us to keep quiet and to stay within our comfort zones. Without question, it is fear that stops us in our tracks toward our goals and limits what we are willing to try. For many, it is fear that makes us lead a smaller life. But fear can also motivate us.

For Li Vo, the young mother of two, facing her fear of heights was the least of her worries one night in the 1970s. Looking much younger than her years, she had joined the crowd of teenagers as they marched through her neighborhood toward the harbor that evening. Her Communist neighbors hadn’t noticed her slip from her modest apartment and into the crowd. Her destination: America.

As the group neared the harbor, she glanced carefully at every vessel they passed until she saw the ship that would transport her and her family out of Saigon and to freedom, a journey they had saved for and plotted the past three years.

Somewhere, from out of the crowd, her husband Hui joined her with their two children. “You must climb up,” her husband instructed her.

As she gazed up at the looming side of the ship, her old fear returned, but only for a moment as she gazed into the expectant faces of her children. “Follow Mommy,” she encouraged, hooking her foot onto the first rung of the flimsy rope ladder. “We will be fine.”

As she slowly took step after step, she allowed herself to look down, only long enough to make sure the children were following. At last, she reached the top and climbed over the ship’s railing.

At 2 a.m., as the ship steamed out of the harbor, loaded with new refugees, Li and her family were on board and safe, leaving their native Vietnam far behind. Counting stops at refugee camps in Hong Kong and the Philippines, it took almost a year for the Vo family to finally reach the U.S. and the hospitality of their sponsoring family.

Even today, some 30 years later, Li remembers her defining moment. It was the moment she faced down her lifelong fear of heights to carry her family to freedom.

Knowing our fears and facing them will free us also.

The acronym F.E.A.R. stands for “False Evidence Appearing Real.” It’s a true definition of fear. It describes how our minds can weave together false tales of how situations will turn out.

If I ask my boss about that promotion, I will get blacklisted. If I terminate Joan, I know she will sue us. If I don’t nail this project, I will be off the fast track. If I don’t get that bonus, I will never be able to afford our new mortgage payment. If I succeed at this job, I don’t think I can take it to the next level again.

Fear is really a secondary emotion, not a primary one. Since we jump to fear so reflexively, we fail to think about our first reaction, which is the cause for our fear.

Causes of our behavior are easier to address than the symptoms, like fear. For example, our fear of flying might a symptom of a high need for control, and giving up that control produced tremendous anxiety – fear. Our fear of public speaking (#1 on the world’s list of fears) might be a symptom of insecurities – we are not expert enough or prepared enough to give a fluent speech.

The key is to identify our primary response to a situation or change and think about it. When we stop to think about our fear, we can determine if our primary response is insecurity, sense of loss, need for control or discomfort with uncertainty. Once we honestly identify our primary response, we start to know our fear more intimately. Then, we can equip ourselves with information and experiences to fearlessly manage change in our lives. We must think about and act on our fear instead of simply reacting to it.
This thought reminds me of the prison warden who told the condemned man to order whatever he wanted for his last meal, and he offered suggestions, “Lobster, Filet Mignon, Beef Wellington or shrimp?”

“No,” the prisoner said. “I’ll just have a bowl of mushrooms.”

“Why mushrooms?” the warden asked him.

“I’ve always been afraid to eat them.”

Don’t wait until it’s too late to know your fears. Fear is a natural reaction to the challenges of life and leadership. To grow, change and excel, we must face them.

Excellent leaders listen and watch for what they fear. They seek feedback and other signs that might tell them to take a hard left off a straight path.

Since the information leaders receive can often be filtered to some degree, it’s up to the leader to get the full story. How do we do that? We can look for dissenting opinions, assumptions and perspectives to minimize our blind spots. If all we hear is “yes,” we should be careful. In fact, we shouldn’t take “yes” for an answer!

We can’t wait for different opinions to come to us… we must seek them out. Excellent leaders seek “no holds barred” input from employees in meetings, one-on-one updates, surveys, e-mails, in the break room or even after hours.

One of the most common defining moments I hear from employees is the time their manager asked them for input. It’s amazing how something so simple can be so powerful. By asking for feedback to stay ahead of the fear curve, you can create a defining moment for you team – you can redefine “how things are done around here.”

Our greatest fear should be that we will waste a moment… a potentially defining moment.

Leadership excellence is rooted in a fearless confidence that what is discovered will pave a new, brighter path for the team. Know fear!

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can adrenaline intensify emotions such as fear and anxiety?

Written by admin on March 2, 2010 – 12:12 pm -

i thought it did the job of masking them, and giving you a rush that will over come fears.
true or false?

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Please help me make a list of all negative emotions driven by fear?

Written by admin on February 27, 2010 – 1:02 am -

- Embarasment
- Hatred
- Anger
- Jealousy
- Blame
- Please continue
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This New Age excersize is a sort of twist off the bible: which says: ‘there is no fear in Love.’ Your thoughts?

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Objectifying our Fears and Emotions – Overcoming Fear Part – 6

Written by admin on February 24, 2010 – 4:49 pm -

 

We can develop separateness from our fears and other emotions by objectifying the part of ourselves, which feels those emotions. This can done by:

a. Drawing how we imagine that part of our being to look.

b. Writing a letter to that part of our personality.

c. Engaging in a written or verbal dialogue with it.

d. Allowing this part of ourselves to express itself through dance.

In these ways, we are able to realize that we are not that part of ourselves, which is programmed to fear.

Function Parallel to It

Then we can function parallel to it. Even though one part of ourselves does not want to proceed out of fear, we can move forward in spite of those feelings.

This is called living parallel with the fear. We observe it, recognize it, and accept it, but function parallel to it, doing what we actually fear to do. This is also very much like behavioral therapy in which we gradually come into contact with the aspects in life that we fear most.

The following is a letter written by a young man at the age of 25 after occasional periods of residing in a clinic for mental health. He has understood his fear well and his letter will help us also understand ours.

A Letter Addressed To Fear

“Dear Fear,

“I think I know quite a lot about you. With God’s help, I more or less came to understand how you were born and how later you became so huge that you broke up my existence.

“The seed that bore you may have come from previous lives, but you fell on fertile ground, found the right conditions and grew so as to threaten everything inside of me. The ambience within the family, traumatic experiences, and perhaps things still unknown to me and yet to come, all served as food for you.

“Now that you have gone into orbit and are so low in the sky that soon you will sink, I can see you as a huge piranha with innumerable black tentacles, an entity close to the form of death.

“I say that you are low in the sky because you still hold me captive, a prisoner. I know you originally came to protect me, but you hugged me dangerously tight, distorted my ideas, engendered violence and aggression, overfed my ego and almost destroyed me.

“You grew metastasis in every part of my being to such a degree that at the sound of your name alone I became terrified. I am afraid even when you are not there. In the end, like a ghost, you began to haunt me always and everywhere. In this ceaseless running you have imposed upon me, I have been running down many evil and dangerous roads.

“There is no doubt that if it weren’t for you, I would not be escaping to find new horizons. Although I have tasted death because of you and am still in pain, I thank you for chasing me. On the dark paths I had taken, I suddenly saw in the sky a star, like a flickering candle, which began to guide me and determine my life.

“As time goes by, slowly but steadily, and this star shines more brightly and make my progress surer, I want you to understand that this light is divine and will gradually illuminate every nook and cranny of my being, the places where you are now.

“So I thank you for bringing me so far to protect me. Now I don’t need you anymore. Go away. My real self is beginning to grow. That which fears nothing is strong and serene.

“As for you, the dwellings you find and the reality in which you flourish are all nothing but delusion.

“I thank God that, with His help, I dare to face you. With the ever- increasing light I shall beam onto you, you will begin to disappear, seeking another dark place in the shadows.

“I am already certain that you are low in the sky and someday will no longer exist. ”

This letter teaches some important points about fear and coming to terms with it.

a. The writer speaks of coming to understand how this fear was born in his mind. In this way, he objectifies it and can then perceive it as something separate from himself, which was programmed into him at some particular moment.

b. He gives it a form, a “huge piranha.” This also facilitates objectifying and distancing it.

c. He understands that at first the fear was a protective mechanism, but it then got out of control.

d. He realizes now that he does not need it for protection, that he can find healthier forms of protection.

e. He also realizes he can heal this part of himself by sending love and light, for fear can exist only in darkness, ignorance and a lack of love.

We suggest that you read the previous and forthcoming sections of this series.

May you be well

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